Not Heartless—Mindful

I have toyed with the idea of suspending my blog posts for a period of time in light of the hyper-seriousness of current events.

But then I thought better.

Almost all of the news out there is grave and serious and about COVD-19—as it should be. The infection and death rates just keep skyrocketing. Is it because people are not doing as their instructed? Is it because we’re testing more and more and just adding to the data? Is it because those who may have been contacted two weeks prior are just beginning to manifest, so though we’re doing as directed, we’ll always be two weeks behind? Or is it a combination of all things and those we don’t even yet know?

Given all this intense coverage, we all need a break. At the end of my workday yesterday, because, yes, I am still working—from home—I found myself pretty exhausted, more mentally than anything. I was tired of all the negativity, not to mention the focused intensity of my own work. Heck, I didn’t even want to take a walk outside. I just wanted to sit and veg and maybe watch something stupid and FUNNY on TV.

So I did.

And I found that that had a remarkable recuperative effect upon me.

This is nothing new. It’s happened before and it’ll happen again, I’m sure. But it underscored my decision: that we all need reprieves if we can get it.

Now, admittedly, not everyone who’s dealing with this pandemic can get a reprieve. Like many of you out there, we know people actively on the front lines battling this beast, actively trying to save lives by placing THEIR OWN LIVES out there. One of my friends is a guy I’ll call “Mike X.,” an ER nurse in New Mexico. He’s been in that line of work nearly all of his adult life. I’ve gotten to know him over the past almost 30 years because he is originally the friend of another family member, but I’ll tell ya…he’s one helluva saint. He plays a Mr. Tough Guy pretty danged well, but you can see by his actions that he cares and any loss (i.e. death) greatly affects him. That means he cares about Humanity. Otherwise he would’ve left the business.

And he’d hate it if he found out I’d been talking about him. Sorry man, you and all you work with deserve a heckuva lot of praise and so much more. To Mike X and all like him, you have our sincerest praise and thanks, none of which can ever do adequate justice to what you are all doing right this minute. Please…never give up…and know that we are thinking about you and pulling for you and your charges.

But it doesn’t help if everyone associated with what is going on are all continually stressed. It just doesn’t help the situation.

We all need relief…and hope all the First Responders dealing with this find their relief, whether it’s for a few minutes of a 24/7 schedule or whatever. So it’s up to all of us to do what we can to help out, and part of what I can do is [hopefully] help divert one for a few moments with something funny or anecdotal. I’m not trained in anything First Responderly (except for my old CPR training, which is woefully lapsed). I’m a writer with a background in years-old satellite operations. Nothing usable in today’s situation, but were I needed in some way, I would gladly help—but having said that, I also realize that it is extremely important that I be there for MY FAMILY. This is just as important as helping the masses.

So…this is my offering to my family and world in this dire state: humor and anecdotes.

And after feeling measurably better last night after having had a few good laughs, I realized that I would continue posting my blogs…but know that I do it not because I’m heartless and am ignoring what is going on around me.

I am hyper aware of what is going on around me, but then I have always been.

I am an observer of Humanity.

And there is not much that escapes me…and I often comment to my wife more than I should.

But while I can be/am critical of the everyday individual, I also feel I understand the underlying mechanisms of many: we’re (yes, I include myself) all just trying to do the best that we can, with what we got. And sometimes we all get tangled in the weeds for the beach.

So though our state’s statistics have again shot up (31 deaths and 1,734 Colorado cases as of yesterday), I offer what I can to help ease the stressed and knotted of us out there, as do many others of my station. This is no vacation, as the front page of our Colorado Springs Gazette signaled this morning, but you can take things seriously and manage your own mental (and of course, physical) health to the best of your abilities, and I hope myself and others like me can help you do that.

So…be smart…follow the guidelines…and keep those in your charge close and supported…in any way you can. Nothing is too small nor insignificant: phone calls, texts, Zooms. We are all connected, as you can plainly see by the insanely rampant spread of something that originated on far, foreign soil and came home to roost in our hometowns.



COVID-19 And You

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6 Responses to Not Heartless—Mindful

  1. Susan says:

    Humor is huge! Without humor, I could not have survived things I have gone through. Some might call my humor inappropriate, but even in the worst circumstances I can find something to laugh about. So carry on with your humor, Frank. We need to laugh to stay sane.

    • fpdorchak says:

      Thank you, Susan! It is nice to know these efforts are appreciated.

      That said, DO something more relaxing, like meditation, yoga, stretches. Take those walks. Make some crafts…COLOR…do so with other family members on FaceTime or Zoom. Maybe even write stories WITH your children. Whatever it takes. Don’t just sit around. Find an at-home workout routine that suits you, as in:

      We can all weather this if we keep our heads about us and do what is required of us. Remember: none of this is about an individual. It’s about all of us working together for the common good.

  2. Karen Lin says:

    Very kind of you. Ironically Wen’s been on a Watch A War Movie kick! We’ve watched Band of Brothers again and 1917. Both well made… but really?! Maybe he likes to put the virus into perspective? Anyway, yes, reprieves from the story are essential. I’m looking for good comedies myself. Cracked up over Neighbors and The Blockers.

    To update your CPR training… they are now skipping the breaths. I did recent training. For a long while it was 5-1, then 10-1, now none. Pumps to the speed of the song Staying Alive by the Gibbs. They’ve found the chest pumps are more important, to get that heart started up is priority one.

  3. fpdorchak says:

    Watching any movie that caters to the masculine/feminine self can indeed help reinforce and even heal the person watching it. Watching those kinds of movies can stimulate the appropriate “internal mechanisms” within each of us that will give us the desired (fe/male) effect of feeling more fe/male. Stimulating a stronger more “branded” sense of self that can aid in feelings of depression or lack-of-control. It stimulates the ego and id. It can help reorient the watcher of said movies into a more grounded role of their fe/male selves. Help them remain sane, and yes, put the whole “virus thing” into better, more tangible perspective.

    CPR: thanks, Karen! I knew about the skipping of breaths and the compressions only, but forgot the scale of the compressions, so thanks. I’ll keep Staying Alive in my head!

  4. Paul says:

    No question about it, Frank. We need humor at this difficult time. Heck, we need it more than ever, just as we need good recreation. That’s why I’m keeping my blog and Twitter page going. People need mental breaks to cope, and I intend to keep supplying them.

    Take care, and stay safe!

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